It never gets easier, you know, when they leave. They may be getting deployed, traveling for work, or work late shifts, but the process is always the same. You try to mentally prepare yourself for your time apart. You wonder how you will manage it all. Though you are sad, there is still a house that needs to be tended to, and kids that need be raised.
When you have a spouse who works or travels a lot it can be tough. However, I believe there is a bright side to this type of situation. I know I’ve learned how to be very independent. I’m not afraid to go places and do things by myself. It also helped me discover my passions/interest outside of my marriage. Still I feel this tips below will help you cope when your spouse is gone a lot.
One thing that I have found to help when my husband leaves, is to keep busy. Heck, with two kids I have no choice but to keep busy. However, there are moments that if I allow myself to dwell it can get hard. Keeping busy can mean many things to many people. For me, it’s getting involved with a lot of activities for my kids. Working could be another form of keeping busy. Also, getting involved with different social clubs could also help.
Talk About It
I think it’s also important to talk about how you feel. If you are feeling particularly sad one day confide in your trust confidant. More than likely they will empathize with you and offer some type of support.
Don’t Always Be Strong
I know this piece of advice seems counter intuitive. But think about it, being strong all of the time can get mentally draining. You don’t always have to put on the brave strong face. There are times when you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. If you need to cry, cry. If you feel frustrated, feel frustrated. Let it out and move on.
Discover Your Interest
As I mentioned above I’ve learned a lot about what I love, because my husband does travel a lot. I’ve learned that there is a whole world outside of my bedroom that is waiting to be discovered. I’ve found that I like to blog,heavy lifting, and read. Take this time to get to know yourself. It will make for a much richer relationship when your spouse is home.