Marriage, Military Life

Ask Away Thursday – I Need Help Deciding Where to Work!

Ask Away Thursday - Where Should I Work-

We have another Ask Away Thursday! This weeks question is from a mama who needs help deciding where to work. She also a fellow military spouse.  Let’s help her out.

My husband is transitioning from his career in the military, but isn’t working yet. We need a supplemental income, so we’ve decided that I look for work while he pursues changing career paths. We have a 5yo in kindergarten, a 3 yo and an infant. I’ve been offered two jobs. One is full time at minimum wage at a child development center working in the infant room. I would be able to have my youngers attend the center at little cost. I would be finished working in time to pick up the kindergartner and be home in the evenings. Yet, the second job sounds so good for me. I would work 20 hours a week, but make more money overall. The catch is the second job is 4-8pm Monday-Friday because I would be developing an after-school program. So that would mean being gone every weeknight evening. I feel really torn between what to do. We need a second income but one job would be full-time and require me to pay for some child care while the second I would work only part-time hours and make more money. What should I do? Is it too much to be gone every evening? My husband is a good dad, but making dinner and doing baths and bedtime every night might be a lot.

Good morning!  It’s great that you have two job offers.  I completely understand your dilemma. I’ll be honest and say if it were me I would choose the second job.  Not only is it less hours but the pay is more.  The great thing is you will be able to spend the day with your 3yo and your infant.  However, I understand that you will be missing out on evening with your Kindergartner.  That’s the tough part.  Perhaps, during the weekends you can do special mommy daughter one-on-one time with her so she doesn’t feel neglected.

During the four hours you are gone, your husband can look after the kids, so you won’t have to pay for childcare.  The second job also sounds like a great opportunity that will lead to other great things.  Also, once your husband enters the work force it seems like you two would be able to coordinate your working hours better with the second job.

I wish you much luck on your decision!

Which job would you choose if you were this mother?

Please check out what our other mommy panel members had to say:

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17 thoughts on “Ask Away Thursday – I Need Help Deciding Where to Work!

  1. I agree I would take the other job also. Your husband will do great with evenings. It will just take a little adjustment. Us working moms miss a lot of time with our babies but that’s why weekends are extra special.

  2. I would tell the mama to do what she thinks is best. I went to college twice in the evenings and my kiddos were fine with Daddy. I would come home and the house would be clean and everything would be done. Hubby is real good at putting kiddos to work. It is such a hard decision for us moms when it comes to being away from home. All I can say is that my mom was away 5 days a week in the evening when I was about 12 years old. I still felt very loved and have a very close relationship with her. Your children will understand with time that you are trying to do what is best for them and the family. May God bless you and best of luck. 🙂

  3. What a tough decision! You gave great advice, though. I bet her husband will pick up the routine in no time and it’s good for kids to get that time with other parents if they have an opportunity to anyway. It will be an adjustment, but hopefully a good one for all of them.

  4. I would take the second job because of the higher pay and not having to pay for childcare. Plus it is relatively short hours – so less time away from family. It’s tough making big changes like this, especially as a mama. How wonderful that she wants to help her family financially AND that she already has two job offers! Awesome! Good luck with whatever you choose!

  5. I completely understand what she’s going through and would also choose the second job. It sounds like she is more excited about it and it would give her husband more time to bond with the kids. I work part time mostly weekends and it works great for our family so far!

  6. I would choose the job that leads to her bliss. She sounds much more excited about the second job, so I would tell her to go for it. If she has the opportunity to do what she loves for a living, be passionate about it, and have her career be more than just a job, then that’s what she should do. Her husband is a parent too, and I think he’d love the chance to step up and take charge. It’ll give him great one-on-one time with the kids once he gets the hang of everything. 🙂

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