I’ve only been a mommy of three for 3 weeks exactly. In these last three weeks I’ve learned a few things about having three children, like how to manage my time more efficiently, and how to get three children to bed at a reasonable time. But the lesson that has stood out to me the most is grace.
What about grace, you ask? Well, I thought about it. Us mothers grant our spouses grace, children, family, friends, and even strangers. But there is one person we leave out, and that is ourselves. We are hard on ourselves. For example if at the end of each day we don’t reach the expectations we had set.
To me grace is forgiveness and mercy wrapped into one. Grace can also be defined as “, and that is something lacking in the relationships with ourselves (okay I can’t speak for everyone just myself).
This week my husband went out of town, and I was left alone with a newborn, 2 year old, and 5 year old. I tried to reach my daily goals of being a nurturing, loving, and patient mother…but to be honest most days I fell short. However, I decided for this period in my life I need to give myself grace. I allowed myself to fall short because it’s too much to be perfect each day. No the world won’t fall apart because I didn’t cook dinner, or I didn’t get to squeeze in an educational lesson that day.
I’ve even explained to my children that “mommy is only one person, and as much as I would like to be everything to you I just can’t”. Though my children may not understand exactly what that means, they give me grace as well. My flaws are very apparent, but to them I’m their mommy and they love me regardless. Seeing how my children don’t expect perfection from me also motivated to give myself for grace.
I no longer shy away at the thought of giving myself grace because it’s what I need to do in order to be a good mother. I would also urge other moms to do the same. It’s okay mama give yourself grace.
Ways To Give Yourself Grace
Don’t strive for perfection, instead strive to do your best each day. And if you don’t it’s okay.
If your tired don’t cook dinner, or let 1-2 chores go for the day.
Treat yourself to something special. It could be a coffee or fancy salad.
Don’t take life so seriously. Even though a situation maybe stressful in that moment, there is always a silver lining.
Believe in yourself. Being a wife and/ or mom is hard…but you can do it.
Love yourself, flaws and all. Embrace all of your imperfections. Improve the ones you can change, and accept the ones you can’t.
What are other ways you can give yourself grace? Let me know below.