When I first found out that I was pregnant with Sugar Bee (my third child). I had a panic attack when the positive sign showed up on the pregnancy test. After a month of denial I accepted the fact that I was about to become a mom of three. My panic was because I wasn’t for sure how I would handle three children, especially since we are a military family and don’t live close to our loved ones.
I prayed throughout my pregnancy and I knew God would give me the ability to successfully handle three children 5 and under. I’m four months into my parenting journey of as a mom of three children I would love to share with you the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Being A Mom of Three (The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly)
During my pregnancy with Sugar Bee I asked my veteran mom friends what it was like having three children. For the most part everyone said it was an easy transition. That helped me immensely. However, when I read blogs about being a mom of three, they gave a very different account. Most said that adding a third was a harder transition then when they had their second. That scared the crap out of me because my transition to two kids was pretty tough, mainly because I developed postpartum depression after Bumble Bee was born. Reading these negative experiences certainly didn’t help my outlook on having a third child. I’ll start with the good part of being a mom of three.
Honey Bee and Bumble Bee were very excited to have another sibling. They constantly kissed my tummy when I was pregnant with Sugar Bee and exclaimed their love for her. Honey Bee (my 5-year old daughter) couldn’t wait to feed and change her baby sister’s diapers. I think her excitement rubbed off on my two-year old, and I believe that helped him feel like he wasn’t being pushed out of the way.
Once Sugar Bee was born the excitement continued and so far neither of them have displayed any signs of jealousy or rivalry (this will probably change as they get older).
I also get a lot of help from my older daughter. She is so delighted to have a little sister that she constantly ask me what she can do to help. This has been a very big blessing for me, and I appreciate her so much.
Another great thing about having three kids is that the two older ones can play with each other while I’m tending to the baby. I don’t feel the pressure to constantly entertain them, because now they have each other to play with.
One good thing that happened that I didn’t expect was the feeling of completeness that I felt with having three children. My heart truly feels like it is bursting with so much love for each child. I feel that each child adds their own special touch to our lives.
The bad moments that I do experience with the kids usually relate to how I’m feeling that day. That is why I make it a priority to ensure I’m doing what it takes to remains emotionally, spiritually and physically sound.
I talk about what I’m doing to accomplish this is these post:
Sometimes, things can get intense when having children. There are times when I need a timeout to reset because it can get real. For example, when all three kids may need me at one time. Those times can get pretty stressful, especially if I’m tired. Or one kid gets hurt while the other is screaming their head off.
Most of the “ugliest” moments I’ve experienced with being a mom of three have involved poop. I’m not sure if my three kids have sort of plan, but they always seem to all poop at the same time! A few weeks ago I took the kids to the circus, and it was just my luck that all three kids had to poop at the same time. The situation got pretty ugly because the circus had not yet opened and my two-year pooped multiple times throughout the evening. As you can imagine it was a pretty stressful. By the end of the night I was one overwhelmed mama!
Our sex life has also taken a hit. Sleep usually wins the battle by the end of the day. This is something that we have to work really hard at because the windows of opportunity don’t present themselves often.
What Makes The Transition A Little Easier To 3 Kids Easier
- Being organized – One of my goals for 2016 was to get more organized. Thankfully, my mother-in-law helped us develop a system for clothes and laundry that made my life a lot easier. Laundry was one of the things I struggle with and getting this organized lifted a weight off of my shoulders.
- Having the Proper Gear – My Sit’N’Stand stroller and baby carrier help me feel confident no matter where and the kids go.
- Running a Tight Ship – I’m a bit of an authoritarian when it comes to discipline. I’ve found that this way works best for my children. I also make sure we stick to a flexible schedule which cuts down on the amount of melt downs during the day. It also enables me to get a little quiet time for myself.
- Giving Myself Grace – I also accept that I can’t accomplish everything and do everything in one day. Doing this helps me not feel so under pressure, I don’t do well under pressure.
- Have Fun – This moment in time with three children is so fleeting so important to enjoy and have fun! I try not to take the serious moment too seriously and not worry too much about the worrisome moments.