Three months after I met my husband he got PCS’d across the country. I really wasn’t for sure we would be able to maintain our relationship from afar. However, over the years I’ve learned distance can actually make a relationship stronger. Sure, some relationships with wither away; but the relationships that mattered stayed. Once my husband got settled my daughter and I moved across country to all be together. Then I had to worry about maintaining all of my relationships back home. I was plagued with fear that my friends and family would forget about me. However, that wasn’t the case. I’ve learned a thing or two about maintaining long distance relationships, and I’ll share what I’ve learned with you.
1. Acceptance. Learn to accept that once you move, you will lose some friends. That’s okay because it just means they were only meant to be in your life for a season. Don’t focus on lost friendships, focus on the ones that are still there.
2. Fill them in. Call, text,write letters,face time. Always keep them up-to-date on what’s going on in your life. This way when you finally see them in person, there won’t be information overload on the happenings in your life. Also, make it a point know what’s going on in there life.
3. Understanding. It’s important for you both to be on the same page. For example, me and my friends/family know that no matter how long we go without talking nothing in our relationship has changed. It’s important that neither of you take it personal if you go awhile without talking. Overtime, you will began to see you feel secure in your relationships even if you go awhile without talking.
4. Be there. Let it be know that you will always be there no matter what. Don’t let distance stop you from supporting your relationships. If you can’t make an important event, send flowers or a special gift. Or offer your positive thoughts and prayers. Overtime, these gestures mean a lot to people.
5. It takes two. Okay, this is probably the most important tip. You and the other person HAVE to WANT the relationship to work. Not only that but both of you HAVE to be willing to put in the time and energy to make the relationship last. It’s impossible to be in a long distance relationship with someone who doesn’t care. With those types of people I say let it go.
Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? How did it go? What lessons did you learn? Please share below!