New Year New Momma : Loving Myself

Self Care

The first thing on my New Year New Momma checklist is loving myself.  I’ve talked a little about it here.  It’s something I’ve struggle with my whole life.    However, I want to start making a change.  I don’t want to continue in this pattern my whole life.  Not only is it not productive but I have kids that look up to me now.

I discovered a lot of my self-love issues come from trying to live up unrealistic expectations.   It’s only gotten worse since becoming a mother. Let’s be honest it’s hard not to compare yourself to another mother.  Also, there are highly critical people in my life , and I felt I needed to live up to their expectations as well.   These are just a few reasons why I lack self-love.

After, going over “why’s” let’s get to the solution.  Here are the steps I’m going to take to help me love myself.


  1. Continue to discover what I love.  I’ve mentioned it time and time again, but lifting and blogging have changed my life.  They provide me with an outlet and gratification that I can’t get anywhere else.  However, I want to explore other activities.  That’s the beauty of life you can do and try so many different things.  I want to make a family scrap-book.  I want to start olympic lifting, and open my own business.  Yoga has also been on my list of things to start doing as well.   These are just a few activities I want to pursue.  I think by doing this, it will help me discover who I am and be more confident.
  2. I don’t have to be perfect.   There is no such thing as perfect, there is only “doing my best”.  I’m going to let go of the notion that I need to perfect.  I don’t need to be the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect friend.  The only thing I can do it my best, and be sincere in my efforts.  I need to be okay with the fact that it’s not going to please everyone. However, for mental state I must do it.
  3. Giving myself permission.  MOPS had a yoga class and the instructor said “you don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.  I give you permission to let go.  Be gentle with yourself like you are gentle with others”.  I exhaled as she spoke, and I knew she was right.  I need to give myself permission to have off days.  It doesn’t mean that I’m a failure, it just means that I’m being gentle with myself.  If I’m too tired to take the kids to the park, that’s okay, we just won’t go.  It doesn’t mean I’m a bad mother because I didn’t do an activity with them that day.
  4. Speak kind words to myself.  I’m going to replace the word “fat” with “strong”.  I’m going to look in the mirror and point out all of the things I like about myself.  But like my friend Irina from Homegrown Adventures said, it’s much deeper than that.  Beyond appearance what do I like about myself?  I love that I’m easy to talk to and a good listener.  I like that I’m a goal oriented person.  I like that I can be vulnerable.  It’s great being human because we aren’t one-dimensional and there is beauty in that.

-Love Yourself By Being kind to your mind and body-


Do you struggle to love yourself?  If so, what steps are you going to take to change it?  Follow me and my awesome friends in our #NewYearNewMomma journey on Instagram!  

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