Moms Share Real Life Tips On How To Wean From Breastfeeding
October 18, 2017
I’ve breastfed three times, so would think that I was a pro when it came to weaning. NOPE! Weaning is always awkward for me. I try to follow the rule of cutting down feedings, but that can get tough when I’m in public and my baby is crying and pulling down my shirt. So then I give in because I start to feel guilty and I just want to end the outburst.
So instead of giving you some flowery advice on how to gently wean your baby. I wanted to share with how other moms weaned their babies because let’s get real when it comes to parenting children don’t follow rules. Thank you to all of my mommy blog friends who shared their stories.
Me: The first time I weaned, it was abrupt. I went on a week-long “vacation” away from my 1-year-old daughter and when I came back, I just didn’t nurse her anymore. Oh, I take that back. I did nurse her one last time in the back seat of my mother-in-law’s car. My baby nursed like she was famished. After that, I never nursed her again. I really regretted how I ended our nursing relationship.
With my second child, I stopped nursing him at 18-months because I got pregnant with my third.
Now, I’m in the process of trying to wean my third, but I have mixed feelings. On one hand I don’t want to stop because she might be our last, but on the other hand…I’m so ready to be done nursing!
Mummy Confessions:My number one tip is to get pregnant. 😂😂🤦♀️ Fortunately (or maybe not) for me, being pregnant meant my milk dried up around the halfway mark which made for perfect timing for weaning (around 1 1/2-2year mark). No engorgement, just needing to replace breastfeeding with a new routine.
(So maybe a realistic tip would be to be sure to replace it with something that still helps the routine flow if you have a routine.) With one, I went to bottles, so she would still get milk before bed. The other just stopped breastfeeding and had cuddles before bed. Both ended up with a spill proof sippy nearby as well.
Dreaming Of Silos: I literally had to go on an out of town work trip for 3 days and when I came home, my 2-year-old was weaned! I still feel like if I hadn’t have gone on that trip, I would still be breastfeeding an almost 3-year-old right now. I know it’s not ideal to leave your baby for that long, but in our case, it was really beneficial for us – I got some me time and daddy got some bonding time!
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Whatever Moms: getting them to drink something else always helped. I did it in stages. I would interested bring my kid from walking up to breakfast and made sure it was filling. Avocados are great for that. Then after a couple weeks of that, wean out a nap time feeding. And then the next nap time, and then finally bed time. For me, he weaned on his own and I didn’t even realize it until after bedtime that he hadn’t had his bedtime milk. Bitter Sweet.
Messy Buns and Latin Chant: Cabbage leaves to help with engorgement! There is something in the cabbage that suppresses milk production so it’s not a great fix for mastitis or early engorgement (although I have used it in desperation), but when you are weaning, it is excellent. I had mastitis one day and couldn’t get out due to being in a feverish stupor. My mom thought she was SO funny when she brought me a head of cabbage and said, “I didn’t know whether to get you C or D sized cabbage.” Looking back it was kinda funny.
Totally Mommed It:We weaned gradually as we introduced new foods. We waited on cues from him signifying he was actually ready to wean. We established a solid food routine and other liquids like water and milk. At night, I had to sleep in a different room for about a week bc he was comfort nursing at that point.
Ashley Marie Lifestyle: Have lots of fun snacks for the distraction once the daytime feedings are cut out and if food fails as a distraction choose to go outside or move their bodies. Go slow, have grace and I’d save the sleepy feedings (i.e naptime and bedtime) for last as those tend to be the hardest. Also avoid normal nursing spots, if you have a nursing chair or something try not to sit in it as much.
Hargraves Home and Hearth: Go slowly to avoid engorgement, mastitis, etc. – slowly replace nursing sessions with other food, distractions, cups of water, etc.
Christ-Centered Mama: Go the pace that your child would like to go. In the case of my child, at 16 months he thought he was too big for nursing… all at once. With my second child, I’ll try to do the same and listen to the cues he or she gives me.
Embrace This Joyful Life: When I weaned my son I weaned him all but a before bed feed at 1 year. Then at 15 months, I weaned him all the way. That was over Christmas when a lot of families was over and wondering what was wrong with my son, why he was so emotional and clingy to me. I think next time I will do it when we have a week to ourselves so that extra people are not adding to the stress.
Surviving Toddlerhood: Eliminate one feeding at a time. I usually leave the morning and nighttime feeds for the last to be eliminated. Also, be prepared for the newly weaned baby to be suddenly attached to something else, especially if you are doing mom led weaning because of pregnancy. My youngest is now very attached to my belly button. He always picked at it while he was nursing now he likes to cuddle me when tired and play with it.