As I drove home a few days ago I decided to take care of a few tasks. One was calling back a recruiter that needed a reference from me for my friend. The conversation was going great until he asked me what my profession was. I replied, “I’m a stay-at-home mom”. “Oh, you are so lucky. I’m jealous”.
Yes, I know I’m very lucky to be a stay-at-home mom. But paused for a moment because I knew exactly what he meant when he said it. I’ve gotten it before. People assume because I’m a stay-at-home mom that I get to watch T.V. and do nothing all day. It used to make my blood boil when I got these kinds of comments, but now I kindly put people in their place.
I laughed a little, “being a stay-at-home mom is a job too”. The recruiter quickly corrected himself. “oh, yes. They say that stay-at-home moms should make six-figure salaries with all that they do”.
How Being A Stay-At-Home Mom is a Profession
I’m apart of a Facebook group that specifically addresses this topic. A few weeks ago we were discussing the ways in which being a stay-at-home mom has actually helped us improve our job skills. I’ve learned more about developing a great work ethic being a stay-at-home mom, than in any other job that I’ve had.
These skills include:
- Knowing how to effectively manage time
- Deligating task
- Working with different personalities
- Taking the lead and being disciplined
- Making Schedules
- Learning to successfully resolve conflicts
- Teaching new skills
- Working under pressure
- Managing overall operations of the home
- Working late hours
- Showing up to work with a good positive attitude
- Managing finances, and making the important financial decisions
The list goes on…
Redefining What It Means
I also want to clarify, that I’m not putting down working moms. I have the utmost respect for working moms. This post isn’t about which is harder (being a working mom or stay-at-home mom). I’ve been both and they are both equally challenging in different ways.
This post is addressing those people who think being a stay-at-home mom is a walk in the park or discount what we do because it’s not in a corporate setting. I’ll be honest in saying that I used to be one of those people. Even when I became a stay-at-home mom I thought it wasn’t an important job.
I didn’t take pride in my position because over the years society taught me that women are only valued if we work outside the home. I didn’t understand the importance of my role as a stay-at-home mom until a year after my daughter was born. It was then that I decided to work it like a real profession (because it is).
What I love about this day and age, is that stay-at-home moms are redefining what it means to be a stay-at-home mom. Stay-at-home moms are empowering themselves by having side businesses and becoming entrepreneurs. The part I’m most proud of is, that we are doing it all while caring for our families.
And to the Random Guy on the Phone, I know you didn’t mean any harm. But if you ever talk to a stay-at-home again, please never say what you said to me. Chances are she took time out of her busy schedule to fit in a call with you, all while handling 5 different other tasks.